Omg okay, so I just started following this autism support group on FB so I could spy on their posts, and someone posted some “advice” to parents of autistic children telling them not to allow their kids to get attached to objects because they`ll freak out when they lose them. Her husband is an aspie, apparently, and was freaking out over losing his special pencil. And then when I said it was horrible advice, this doctor came on and fussed at me, telling me that it was right. Here, you can look for yourself. I can`t get this across properly.
First post-“Moms of young spectrum folks don’t let your kids get attached to things.. ;)”
I came in and said it was horrible advice, because hell, now autistic people aren`t allowed to be attached to things? Because we`re totally incapable of having coping skills, right???
What this person replied to me with-“Actually it is VERY good advice. Allowing a child to believe that any toy or item will ALWAYS be there sets that child up for a WORLD of hurt when it goes missing….and they always go missing!!! You may disagree, but it is by NO MEANS, horrible advice. THANKS!! Dr. A”
To me it came off as really condescending, but hey, I`m not a super good judge on this sort of thing. Am I wrong to be offended by the “advice” itself, and also by having a neurotypical doctor rolling in and telling me that it was actually the right thing to do? I would think I would know a little better, considering I am autistic and actually have some perspective on the subject of being attached to items.
Also, I love your blog a lot. Thanks for making it.
This “advice” pisses me off so much. It’s human nature to get attached to things. I bet the people telling others not to let their children get attached have a favorite chair, or a favorite mug, or something.
It’s especially horrifying that they don’t want to let CHILDREN get attached because that’s how kids (both autistic and otherwise) find comfort/security in our chaotic world. Yeah, it’s temporary because things do get lost, but everything is temporary.