I’m an autistic woman married to an autistic man. We’re not planning on kids yet (if ever), but the possibility is still on the table.
Obviously, any kids we have are likely to be autistic as well. I myself do not have a preference, because I think it is morally abhorrent for a parent to expect or hope for their child to be a certain way.
Do you support my right to have children with the partner which I have chosen?
You complain a lot about people supposedly “judging” other people’s choices. Well…if I were to choose to have a child, would you judge me?
Because if your answers to these questions are what they seem to be, how the fuck do you get off lecturing me about not being appropriately supportive of reproductive autonomy???
Yeah, I also know that if I end up with someone, it will probably a disabled person too, with a lot of chance of actually being of the spectrum too, and some chances that this person would have a reproductive system compatible with mine.*
And if one day this person wants to have children with me I’ll probably want it too.
And if this happens, cautions to everyone who would dare to stop us…
I have no shame or guilt at the idea to bring an other autistic person to life (as long as person who do it with me is willing too of course)(and that’s the same for other hypothetically disabled children) and I may get angry to everyone who wants to guilt me for this (and especially someone who would try to guilt the person who would have them with me.) I think that we are wonderful people who deserve to exist.
So Yes I agree with you on that
*and even if not we may want to adopt, and maybe choose to adopt disabled children too, but that’s another story.